When bad stuff happens…form a net to hold the light

When bad stuff happens there are ripples.  Ripples beyond the specific circumstances to even those hardly involved. Who can not have been moved by the Grenfell Tower tragedy?

When bad stuff happens we look for explanations.  We want to understand how it happened, why it happened, why to me, why now, what could have stopped … Read more


Sea Lessons

We’re by the sea, a sea warm enough to swim in, float on and dabble in and it’s been teaching us lessons.

Sea

Here are some of the lessons the sea has been teaching me, practical, emotional and otherwise:

Teach your children to swim and make sure you can swim yourself

One of our group did … Read more


Christmas Talk?

What are you talking about?

What are you talking about?

Partner and I have been arguing about talking.

His work is all about information, accuracy and being precise (he calls this ‘being right’).  He’s used to getting and giving information and when he asks questions to do with work they are to elicit a very specific type of information.

I … Read more


Women and Divorce

I’m in the middle of writing my next book which is about how to make the best of the end of a relationship whether it is ending through divorce, separation or bereavement (they are more similar than you might think).

As you know, I’m divorced and I know lots of people who are also divorced.  … Read more


Listening

 

When you listen to someone, how much of it do you remember? Give me a percentage?

20%, 50%, 100%?

“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”
Ernest Hemingway

I’ve been on training courses for the Cardiff University recently and we were revising coaching skills.

In the first two years of a … Read more


Truth in Turkey

I actually still feel rested after our late arrival back from Turkey last week in spite of being back to early mornings and children who don’t want to be out of bed in time for school.  The 16  loads of washing (OK, I exaggerate; but only slightly) are done and the cases are stored under … Read more


Gratitude

Happy Mid Winter and may you be wrapped up and content.

You’re not feeling content?

Then you’d be one of many at this time of year. ‘Father Christmas never brings what I ask for’ moaned my youngest (mainly because he asks Santa for i-pods, I-pads, DS’s, play stations – all of which Santa thinks he … Read more


Coaching for Kids

Evening.

The end of the Easter holidays draw nigh and I feel a huge amount of sadness as I’ve loved having time with the kids, and with friends.  I’ve enjoyed the lazy mornings and unstructured and unhurried nature of the days.

I’m also looking forward to getting back to work, clients and writing.

Over Easter … Read more